After posting my earlier entry I started thinking about the part social media plays in relationships and break ups. The book I'm writing is written in different social media formats and will involve how this shapes relationships therefore I needed to think about this carefully. So I've decided to do a mini blog entry on this to get my thoughts down and see what people think.
If you break up with someone and you're friends or follow then on the popular social media sites, it can be hard to move on. You feel they are everywhere posting statuses or updates that are aimed at you and it makes you feel like crap in some cases. The thing is do you get rid of them in that sense? Block them or unfriend/unfollow them and how soon after does this happen? Straight away, weeks, months, years (!) Down the line?
I can't tell you I'm afraid it depends how you feel about the whole situation. I just avoided sites for a month or two and try and skip statuses!
What about people you met through your partner? Do you delete them too? Even if you class them as a friend, surely loyalty to the original friend takes precedence? I've thought about this a lot in the past few months and I'm still no closer to an answer.
The problem is with the burst of social media, nothing is private. Everyone knows what you're doing, where you are, who you're with and what you're talking about. It's annoying but we're all guilty of it. This is why after a break up it's hard to move on as your ex could be posting things like "deliriously happy with my new fella already! Excited for what's to come!" Or they could put on "sat here listening to leona lewis on repeat #heartbreaking" both equally irritating but it's part of life!
What about if it was social media that made you break up in the first place? Jealousy about time spent on sites or who your partner is talking to are now, I assume, big factors in some cases. Do you follow the same protocol or do you block them straight away to avoid awkwardness, arguments on sites and generally being unkind to each other sat behind a computer screen? I don't have the answers I'm afraid it's down to you but I know what I would do!
Anyway this was only meant to be a mini entry and it's an essay! The part social media plays in relationships, break ups, make ups and dating is a big one but don't dismiss it as all bad! It can be very useful for checking the person you're dating isn't a complete nut job, you can avoid a weird dating scenario and save yourself!
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